10 Ways to Get Over and Survive A Break-up

1. Cut off all contact with your ex until you are sure that you are over them. Start by getting rid of all their contact information like email addresses, phone numbers, Facebook and Twitter profiles. 

2. Get rid of reminders of your ex such as gifts, photographs and mementos. Donate them to charity, or throw them away. 

3. Stop re-telling your sad love story. Stop constantly thinking and talking about your ex and your former relationship. I know this is easier said than done but after the initial phase when you have told your friends your sob story make a commitment and effort to stop talking about it. 

4. Do not frequent your old hangouts. Stop going to places where you and your ex used to hang out. Do not stalk your ex, do not drive by their house, gym or places where they like to go. 

5. Make a list of all the bad qualities that your ex has and the undesirable relationship qualities that they have. Pull out your "Bad List" and read over it every time that you start thinking positive thoughts of your ex or what a great relationship you had and how perfect he/she was for you.

6. Break-ups damage your self-esteem and make you feel rotten about yourself so start taking measures to get your self-confidence back. First and foremost, STOP BLAMING YOURSELF for the break-up. There is nothing wrong with you. 

7. You can use positive affirmations to regain your self-confidence after a break-up. Say things like, "I am a beautiful person and deserving of love." Or any other positive affirmation that comes to mind. Write a list of all of your good qualities, carry it around with you and look at it whenever you feel down. 

8. Take Care of Yourself. I cannot stress this enough. Often when a loved one leaves us the first thing we do is stop taking care of ourselves. After all "Nothing really matters anymore,"we say forlornly. Exercise and eat right and don't let yourself go just because your ex has gone :-).

9. You know the old saying: "An idle mind is the devil's workshop." So stay busy with positive activities. Find new hobbies or re-kindle old ones.

10. I saved this step for last for a very important reason, it should only be taken after you have healed. This final step entails finding a new love. Most of us seek love in the midst of healing or as part of healing, this is not a good idea and it rarely ever works. 

Forever Free

I will leave
And set you free
I will walk away
From your dreams From your memories
Far away I’ll be
As “Goodbye” you said
You needn’t to worry
For I won’t call again Erase me
Remove me
Send me away from
Your thoughts
Don’t think of me anymore I’ll hide my feelings
In the dark corners
Of my heart
I won’t ever tell those
To you again
My voice you will forget I’m leaving now
Setting you
Forever
Free

you and I

You and I are connected
in a way that goes beyond romance,
beyond friendship,
beyond what we've ever had before.
It has defied time, distance,
and changes in ourselves
and in our lives.
It has defied every explanation.
Except one:
Pure and simply, we're soul mates.

I can't explain, I just feel it.
It's there in the way my spirits lift
whenever we talk.
The sound of your voice brings me home,
in a way I can't explain.
It's in the delight I feel, when we laugh
at exactly the same things.
When I'm with you,
it's like a tiny piece of the universe
shifts into place.
A place it's supposed to be,
and all is right with the world.

These things and so many more,
have made me understand
that this is a once in a lifetime,
forever connection.
A connection that could only exist
between you and me.
And deep in my soul,
I know that our relationship
is a rare gift.

How to Love Life Again - 5 Things to Tell Yourself

Life is never static. It undergoes continuous changes. Some of them we would prefer not to see at all.
Some are easier to digest. If we are talking about loving life again, the changes have certainly been harder ones.
As life is a school, these changes can be considered tasks we have to learn. Life is meant to show us that love is the ruling force. We tend to forget that.
Whether we lost somebody, a family member, a close friend, a pet or something dear to us, we will grieve.
This is an important part in overcoming our loss. If we are open and honest with ourselves, we can admit that our feelings for the loss of an important person or something dear to us, is nothing else than self-pity. This is hard to swallow but it is the truth
Grief is something you can elaborate, so that it will turn again into love for life.
Sometimes grief turns into anger. You are angry at life or at people who caused that accident or whatever it was that took the beloved ones out of your life.
Think of the lost person as somebody who has gone to a place where they will no longer suffer, where they can further evolve
Grief cannot last forever, nor can anger. It would mean to bind the deceased person to the earth and not to let them go.
Do not allow yourself to grieve for the dear thing. Let go. The thing has gone and it has gone for a reason. Maybe you got too attached to it and it was taken away from you so that you could be freed from that attachment.
Losses of any kind tell us a lot about ourselves. They also teach us many things and we better listen to these teachings.
First: your mourning can be smoothed by classical music that turns mourning into love. Love for Life. For some people the music might be folk music or other kinds that are closer to their culture. Sometimes a good laugh can also be liberating. It doesn't hurt anybody and can help you a lot.
Second: be open to life. Do not continue to talk about the why of the loss and the how hard it is to live without that person or that thing.
Life goes on. Instead of complaining, keep the lost people or pet in your heart. And let go of the thing. If you hang on to negative thoughts, more negativity will show up. You want to be positive, so think positive.
Third: Do things you feel good about. Do them for other people who will benefit. Their benefit is also yours.
Fourth: Do something for your self-improvement. Meet other people, possibly people who love life.
Fifth: By turning back to life, you honor who has gone and you honor love and life. Don't forget this.
Again: listen to music or laugh together with others.
Be open to life. Let go of what has gone.
Do things you like. Do them for you and for other people
Look forward and do something for your self-improvement
Turn back to life. Honor love and life, they go together and are your best allies.

Motivation For Writing My Life Story

Let me begin by asking a series of questions. Could the things that happened to you inspire or entertain others? Do your friends and family love your emails and continuously urge you to publish your stories? Do you live the live others can only imagine? Writing a life story becomes a journey exploring and revealing yourself.Every one can write a life story. Whatever your achievements and challenges in life, your story is worth writing.
Writing my life story, an autobiography, a memoir - this can be a big undertaking. Your motivation for doing it will help you stay dedicated to finishing the story. That motivation will come from your primary reason for writing your story.
So first, think hard and long about why you want to tell your story. What is your motivation? Is it to pass on your personal history to your family? Is it to share your views and values? Have you been through some extraordinary experiences, such as great suffering, disease, heartache or spiritual transformation?
Writing about a time which jolted or even overturned one's life, can be a powerful way of reconnecting and weaving all the pieces of your life back together. It may be death, adoption, abuse, divorce, illness or any other painful experience can cause feelings of unreality, meaninglessness and disconnection, as well as pain and grief. The act of writing a sentence is an act of making connection and of constructing meaning, and may help put the pieces of your life together.
Often there are pictures in the mind that seem to hold special significance. Think about your life and see if there is some image you often think about; a broken toy, a path in the bush, a room in a house. Opening with a symbolic image can be a seductive way to start. It creates a sense of mystery and the possibility of discovery.
Do you desire to be in the spotlight and boast of your accomplishments? (Hey, vanity can be a strong motivator.) Maybe you hope to just make some sense of your life. The why of your story is important, so do give it some serious thought.
Life stories make fascinating reading. Written in a compelling way, they have the power to inspire, uplift and motivate those who read your words. I hope my words have inspired you.

The Love Story of Barbie and Ken

When Barbie strolled onto the world of dolls in 1959, everybody knew it will change the doll scene forever. Since Mattel introduced her, more and more girls all over the world fell in love with the most popular and lovable creation. Aside from the dolls itself, Barbie and everything about her became quite a hit to so many endeared markets--especially her long-standing relationship with Ken Carson.
UNFOLDING BARBIE AND KEN'S JOURNEY
After the introduction of Barbie in 1959, the creators of the world's most-loved doll decided to give her a companion in the form of Ken in 1961. Barbie and Ken, who was created by Ruth Handler, co-founder of Mattel, Inc. were named after the creator's daughter and son. Since their introduction as a couple, Barbie and Ken have been known to have on-and-off relationship.
The loves story of the two plastic dolls started when Barbie met Ken on the set of a TV commercial in 1961. since their first meeting, the couple has and been inseparable ever since. Through the years, the couple's fans around the world followed their "perfect" love story. Everybody hoped that the two would end up together but the possibility was thrown into flames when the two decided to part ways in 2004.
After 43 years of being together, the world's most famous couple in the doll scene has decided to end up their affair but claims it's only temporary. Like the break ups of famous couples in Hollywood, the break up of Barbie and Ken was big news.
According to Mattel vice president of Marketing Russell Arons, the plastic couple's "business manager," the break up stemmed from the fact that the couple wanted to spend quality time apart. And though their romance came to an end, the pretty ex-couple continued to friends. According to the news, the relationship ended because of the overwhelming pressure of always being scrutinized by public eye.
Others say that Ken's vague sexuality and Barbie's disproportionate figure may have finally taken their toll between the two. While other suspect that Barbie's career and popularity over Ken's must have been the real issue between their differences. But, Barbie fans insist that Ken's refusal of tying the knot with the world's most popular fashion doll might have pulled the trigger and ended up the couple's romance.
Despite the rumors spreading about the couple's break up, Mattel assures that the status of the dolls' relationship is temporary, thus, their relationship can be revived again.

Sad Love Story: A Reflection Of Life

When it comes to the matters of the heart, there are things that we just can't fail to relate to. We all feel love, hate and other sorts of emotions that makes us think that we can kind of reflect with what we read or see on TV about the sad love story matters that are being flashed before us. Stories make us think about the things that are happening in our life and what would possibly take place anytime. But this helps a lot in preparing ourselves to face something that may be good or would possibly be bad.
If you look back from the past, you will notice one thing that keeps fooling kids about love. Cartoons always depict that happy thought in their minds and make them believe that a sad love story is never possible when you find your one true love. In reality, we know that this is not always true. Of course we are happy when we are with the person that's very special for us. We tend to forget about our problems and anything else that tries to pull us down when we are with our partner and when we're totally into love. But knocking back to what's the truth, you are not always going to be happy with that person. You can never deny the fact that sadness will always take place no matter how perfect you think things are going to be; there will always be a point where you will have problems in your bond. For people who have come to accept this truth about life, they have come to love the idea about stories that are sad because they know how it feels.
With every sad love story that happens, there will always still be a happy side. It's a part of every person's life; to experience good and bad in their relationships and not always get what they want to have.